Hi! I am in the same place a little bit with my 6 year old daughter! The team she is on requires participation at a champs meet this summer..but i (as a swim coach!) only have my vacation during the same time - so i am going to tell the team she won't participate, and hope they are ok with that! As a working mom its hard enough to balance everything, and i dont know if there is real balance - esp in a job like coaching where its NOT 9-5...its a lifestyle! Anyway, i do think you have to priortize family first - when it comes to vacations. if there is a practice requirement for age group then its good to teach the kids they have to make that work and allow them to decide if skipping practice for a birthday party is the right call, or save a missed practice for extracurricular activity, etc.
I don't think you every have to give up family vacations, but also understanding that performance may suffer for repeated missed workouts too. Does that make sense? Thank you!